Of solving emotional tangles

 I yesterday translated the words of the old Finnish song about learning "Itkevä huilu" to English "A crying flute", see https://learntalents3.blogspot.com/2024/06/preys-paths.html , and remembered from my childhood how my Chinese working life oriented mom had difficulties kn learning wise ways, then learned with the help of the song. But was left pondering, can you then solve emotional tangles, since she thought that those are typically the problem. And so she came with examples of awful emotional attitudes etc, and created an awful mess and ruined so many of my major life possibilities as I had been interested in a career in music. A big part of the problem was she wantkng such tangles, social unjustice, etc. 

But so, an awful emotional tangle often has some strong motivation, so one must learn to recognize of each part what kind of factors are there, what major basic happenings and basic motivations of human lufe or usual situations, things done, etc. A strong insistent tendency of an awful problem to stay, is usually connected with the person causing it, living it strongly, being motivated to such a life in the long run, choosing such to be a major factor of one's future life for tens of years or even longer, if one thinks people living maybe in afterlives or via soulwandering even hundreds or thousands of years. So such is caused by having a social eye that one wants a child with just that person there, now that it is possible, and one sees it as a major good choice in one's lufe, somewhat like someone might see a possibility of a dream job or of cultural influencues of hoped for kind. 

Some might guess that wanting to destroy some harmful or unwanted factor or person in one's living environment, might look similar, but it does not, since it is more lije a technical deed, like aiming for a target and hitying it with a small caliber gun, kind of nice and tidy, guided by the intellect. Instead of the "here I live" type of strong choices to stay in such situation. Such crimes are often based on recognizing wrong who are personal relations near by and who just known from younger years but instead caring for some other area of lufe like a professional, typically for a wide group. 

And then there are ordinary motivations in life, like living according to one's ages old nature ghat is wise, and getting fairly room for one's wisdom, in which my book "Wonderful, Miracle like Beings" at MiracleLikeNature.BlogSpot.com might help. Aggressions between groups often relate with social unjustice, plus failings in social perceptions or in communication. 

One can tune oneself toward one's dream job, culture, etc, and learn their skills, see LearnTalents3.BlogSpot.com yesterday's post about cultural inheritage. So it may be one reason for people feeling aluenated, or then some really are ufos, not comfortable on the Earth, but instead dreaming of another kinds of planets for themselves to live in. 

Lies and social copying and misperceptions, make these more difficult to recognize what is what, who is in which sense doing what, like for example if someone does something and slme others come socially alobg in different ways, with different degrees of moral, and some just do something else, maybe faking to be along. And these vary already in a short time, so it is important who is motivated to what kind of life and what are the values, skills and comfort zones of each.

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In the news there was an article wondering what to do if some claim to want to be hurt in certain ways, for example in connection with their sexual relations. 

My opinion is that such is often an attemot to attack others by causing confusion or lies about who wanted such. 

A typical problem in the climate of Finland is that the climate demands lots of climate skills, or otherwise one may fall oll or die, which is the reason why the northern parts of the country are much less densely populated than the southern, the northmost parts being unibhabitable for most, even though they do not always know so well what is the reason why it does not suit them to live in such places. So skills are an impirtant subject in Finland. It is typical that if something requires lots of skills and one does not have so much skills even thpugh one has quite much ordinary lufe skills, if one attempts the things requiring high skills, one tends to fail often and it may make one feel as if nastily treated, for example cold wind snd rain hitting unprepared skin nastily and one falling ill from catching cold, or one falling on slippery ice on the way to bus stop. And if the task is even more difficult or one is not motivatez enough to it, one may get worse ill and die from such, and so it is natural to give up trying and stay indoors, try to make lufe comfortable and varied enough there and rely more on social relatilns and other people, animals, possible spiritual beings, etc around / reachable. And so one is in the usual situation of the much too unskilled lazying ond: one either has to try really hard to learn the needed skills, or give up and change to other subjects and other areas of life. So many wish that via sexual relations they could learn such skills and maybe get the power of allies. And so the spouce candidate wonder, what does the date want, do they want to learn these skills from a more talented skilled pair, or something else, and often they want to learn, but having some habits of taking sagety precautions against too much steain, or of being too unwusely recklessly attemoting without enough skilks they end up in accizents which are often too big for their social relations to understand the size of their musestimates. So they end up asking, what would help in learning, and so they are adviced that the spouce woukd superwise the learning and estimate the dangers, without too big dangers. Or they misestimate the situation being such while in fa t the person isn't that much skilked or motivated toward thst area of life at all, so they agree some forcing needed and the person dreams of it being possible, but there is some big lack, and so it does not work out .

There are also several occasion when someone wants to tell of some major problem, so there is no violence intebded, but knstead they want to tell of themselves being handkcapoed as if it were a new thing, when knstead it is slme old problem. 

Lijewise many difficult life situations, which often are results of taking a job that requires very very overly much skills comoared to how it is usually talked about or seen, are such that some want to tell what the situatiln in fact is, to make pictures of the world wiser and to remove some common erraneous thoughts causing sich or too much strain. So did someone agree to associate with criminals, or illnesses, or just do some work which ought to have suited one as an ordinary work in a well running ckviliced society. 

It may also be that some transvestites look so much like women or girls, that they confure peopke's views of women and girls. A transvestite often does not feel the need for women's things, he just wants to try them or takes such as a job, as if reaching for poibts. So such persons may cause a view that women/transvestites want some women's things removed from them. Especially if some women go with men like fucking without really carkng in the long run, it does not sound like thknking of tens of years of one's lufe at stake at that, so it either is in a group of right kind of men, or with a sure spouce to back it up, or without the ability to get children, or a transvestite, or a trap to kill the men. 

Likewise luars often through away other people's wished for things, while they themselves do not want so much of them.